There is still pressure in many Jewish families for their younger members to only date and marry other Jews.I can see how competition from another group would be looked down upon in such circumstances.And you know, according to all sorts of sources–including the it does seem to be a thing.It appears I’m one half of a “marriage trend” that’s sweeping the nation, or at least High Holiday Services.Of course, the topic of racial preference in relationships has been looked at before, famously by OKCupid as well as the New York Times Tierny Lab. Given that CMB has grown largely by members encouraging their friends to join, it’s no surprise that the trend has continued.However, we at Coffee Meets Bagel feel uniquely suited to test this specific hypothesis because of our — how shall we put it — enormously overly-representative Jewish and Asian membership. This is largely due to the fact that we first started our service with a group of young, urban professionals (aka our own friends! A quick refresher on how Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) works: Every day at noon, CMB introduces members to one single (aka a “Bagel”), whom they must LIKE or PASS within 24 hours.
Compare this to the 65% of Jewish men chose White women.(A professor once mentioned to me that her synagogue had Asian women “sprouting up” all over the congregation.) People usually cite the most popular examples, e.g., Mark Zuckerberg and “his Asian wife,” Maury Povich and Connie Chung, Woody Allen and “his very young Asian wife.” (Hmmm, Connie excluded, I’d say we Asian women are getting the shaft in terms of name recognition.But this is all beside my point.) Our marriage isn’t trendy. But ours is not a Jewish boy meets Asian girl, and due to a number of conveniently shared values–“tight-knit families, money saving, hard work, and educational advancement” included–they fall in love kind of story. As freshmen, we were lowly chorus members–he was a Jewish Nazi, and I, an evangelical Christian Chinese Austrian nun.It turns out, more non-Jewish White men prefer Asian women (29% vs 19%).However, the greatest preference was for women of their own ethnicity (54%).