“He knew what I did for a living, because I listed it on my profile.But he made a comment about something in my field, and I responded with some information from a research paper I had just published,” she told me.As I overheard a group of women this past week in line at a store verbally tear apart a couple of women within their social circle who happened to be absent, I was taken aback by the vitriol.As I reflected on how women talk about other women, I thought about what I've heard so many women say over the years: "Girls are so much crueler to each other than men." Based on fifteen years of clinical work with women who represent virtually every possible demographic variable (Come on, I trained in New York City), I can assuredly report that the women I've worked with report more critical views of other women than the men do with their own male peers.Most women will tell you that they have survived at least one mean girl in their past: a girl who dismissed, put down, or even socially tormented them. It probably goes without saying that the research is complex, particularly because it is challenging (or impossible?) to measure a critical, negative or hostile attitude given the self-serving bias that makes people want to see themselves as good and upstanding.Vrangalova and colleagues (2013) found that female college students were less likely to want to be friends with another female who was seen as sexually promiscuous, when compared to the rate for male college students who wanted to be friends with a promiscuous male peer.
He didn’t mention getting together again, and that was the last Sara heard from him. There are many possible reasons that John might have decided not to pursue the relationship further: He may simply have decided he was not attracted to her after all, or that she was not as interesting as she seemed in her profile.“But the men stop what they’re doing and look at you with a smug smile and that bums me out so much. I won’t stop running up and down that thing just because they’re staring at me as if what I’m doing is out of the ordinary or unladylike.F*** that.” Goulding doesn’t let it get her down - but that’s probably because she’s a famous pop star. Friends tell me the thought of men staring at them has put them off trying anything but the treadmill in the gym.You’re smiling, answering questions, and attempting to appear competent, and, obviously, hireable.The panel, made up of men and women, aren’t giving anything away.