"Is not dating really the only acceptable option in God’s eyes?"The time has come for a sound, biblical, and practical approach that balances out the extreme perspectives: dating without responsibility versus a complete withdrawal from the dating process.I have to admit to some wry grins as I read, because he was obviously writing to refute Joshua Harris's "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and while hinting that he found Harris's book a legalistic set of rules ("perfect formula")j about how to find a spouse, he himself had his own lists of rules. establish guidelines for the times to discuss a list of questions instead of just hanging out, 4. be specific in setting goals such as avoiding improper speech or avoiding inappropriate alone time, 7. I also hesitated and penciled question marks in the margins when the author said things like "God wants to see you contented and filled" and applied Psalm 37:4 to God wanting to fill a person's desire to date someone, and even some implication that it honors God when we have romantic feelings toward someone because it shows Him that we appreciate His creation.Don't get I finished this last year but just haven't had a chance to sit down and articulate my thoughts on it. I thought it was a pretty balanced guideline for dating christians. be willing to listen to what the partner advises, 5. Yes, God wants us to be contented IN HIM and filled WITH HIM.They might both agree to that idea, but one is usually hoping that with time and exposure the other will start to share the romantic feelings he or she already has, or they might start out that way, but then one tends to develop feelings for the other.It sounds good in theory, but seems fraught with opportunity for hurt and compromise to me.
I finished this last year but just haven't had a chance to sit down and articulate my thoughts on it. I thought it was a pretty balanced guideline for dating christians. I grimace when this author's lists are "okay" and the other author's lists are legalistic.
Now that I have the negative aspects out of the way, there were many, many positive points. I like his guidelines while "on a date" such as focusing on conversation more than activity and his discussions of purity, what it is, and how to maintain it.
This book talks about moving away from extremism just for the sake of extremism and focusing on what makes the most common sense: taking a purposeful plotted path towards marriage and taking less concern over whether it is courtship, dating, group dating, or some other form of leading to marriage.
"Is not dating really the only acceptable option in God's eyes?
The answer, assures author and youth pastor Jeramy Clark, is a resounding "No!