Many want to know how they can go about getting to know someone and eventually getting married without getting hurt or compromising their faith.At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area.Thankfully, God is still stronger than the world, and He wants to protect your teen in the midst of temptation.Good news: Your teenager can maintain healthy, God-honoring relationships. You have the power to redefine dating for your teenager, using strategies that can help you and your teen to navigate relational waters.Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.People attempting to follow a courtship model within today's culture, however, often run into a lot of practical questions, such as, "What if her dad is unavailable or uninterested in being involved?In your teen's world, getting "asked out" may mean cementing an exclusive relationship after weeks of "talking" online, texting, or Facebooking.Teenagers still flirt, date, and fall in love - but with a whole new set of rules.
Satan bombards her with images of "normal relationships" that contradict God's Word.
But, on the other hand, we may not, in reaction to the openness of our society, be silent. I Corinthians 7, Proverbs 5, the book of the Song of Solomon, Job 31:1, Hebrews 13:4, and many other passages speak about the subject openly and frankly.
We must not be as open on this subject as the unbelieving world is today.
Q and I are in youth ministry, we see teen hearts get broken all the time and we hate to say, “We told you so.” because that isn’t the answer. A downward spiral of dating and sexual sin continued for five years (fiercely consuming at 18), until I gave my heart and life to the Lord at age 20.
I dated a guy for three years in high school; we just knew we would get married one day (we didn’t! By age 15, I’d given my heart to him and I’d fallen into sexual sin.