” These questions (and more) are indicative to the plight of the single, 25 yr.
So, maybe these are just mischief-instigating trolls, having some wicked fun via drive-by hate-spewing. I think there’s more to this– and that’s why I’m publishing this post. Some of you seem to be in the mood to REALLY tell us what you think, so here’s your deluxe chance. The handsome man in church soon became her boyfriend, but he was American and Caucasian, far from what she thought her parents would ever accept.: its interesting that you bring this up.. SM is at its best when we are honestly, openly and sometimes painfully hashing out the issues that our community/others refuse to acknowledge or discuss; I didn’t put this post up in order to invite you to pillory “hillside” and “Sheetal”. I wrote this post because I wanted to know how the rest of you felt. Years ago, I crushed on Desi guys who only seemed to “swing one way”; I’ve been let down gently by being told that: girls who are “preferred”, which invites doubt about the sincerity behind someone’s “type”. Encounters with unavailable, suitable boys combined with input from her coworkers, a good portion of whom are African-American, to create an explosive cocktail of hurt; soon, my Mother absorbed that odious complex about “successful POC going white”, after the cutest brown resident at her hospital took up with some “white nurse who wasn’t even pretty” instead of someone Indian/Pinay/Chinese/Black (all of whom were/are allegedly gorgeous, in comparison). There are no educated Malayalee boys with three degrees. I have nothing to prove to your Father’s friends and I’ve never been interested in outdoing them. Additionally, I would enjoy beating the fecal matter out of the last Desi she went on a blind date with, who brilliantly said, “you’d be so pretty if you weren’t so dark! Are you an Indian man or woman, confused about rules of dating in your own race? Come and share your "Dating An Indian" story with the world and become part of this effort to expose the world of "dating", "sex", "arranged marraiges", and more in the middle class Indian American community. I am working on a book related to experiences with Indians in America and have heard hundreds of stories of how things are getting bad.Through sharing our stories, we can begin in our solidarity for maintaining good name of Indians in America and elsewhere and my exposing the bad, we can save the essence of our culture.More and more often, she has her own stable job -- though she should make less than her husband.Such is the demand for high quality mates, that top-tier males are thin on the ground.