They will also – when the situation demands it – know how to seductively deceive, use charm and honeyed words, bedazzle and distract. It’s routinely assumed that a large part of what it means to be a good person is that one acts well.One doesn’t only have good ends, one is committed to good means.
It sounds splendid but Machiavelli couldn’t overlook an incontrovertible problem. As he looked back over the history of Florence and the Italian states more generally, he observed that nice princes, statesmen and merchants always come unstuck., a short deeply original manual of advice for well-disposed princes on how not to finish last.
I remind him that at a party, she doesn’t have a hundred men lined up to talk to her. The strength of online dating lies in its ability to give us access to total strangers; the downside is how difficult it is to keep their attention. Finally, we get to talking about the woman he’s writing to. I wrote about this extensively in a chapter from “Why You’re Still Single” creatively called “Don’t Play Games”, but to reiterate: NOTHING GOOD COMES OUT OF PLAYING GAMES. None of those things prevent a guy from being nice. Kindness without confidence is the charge against the wishy-washy “nice guys”.
They spoke on the phone last night for the first time. But if you put confidence and kindness together…well, I’d say you have a pretty irresistible combination of traits for a man. Confident men keep their plans after they make them.
Second, why are “nice guys” only nice until they get rejected? It sucks and it hurts when someone you’re attracted to isn’t interested. ”) won’t get you laid any quicker, so you may want to get over yourself, dust off, and get back on the proverbial bike. Because if a guy is genuinely douche-y, chances are we’ll figure it out eventually and bounce.
Are we supposed to wait forever for your stuff to drop? Even if we like you, eventually, if you don’t throw us a bone (please don’t misread that, it may end in an assault charge or at least a gross misunderstanding), we’re going to move along to someone who does. And being bitter and jaded and making generalizations about an entire gender (“Girls only like jerks!