"If you're no longer spending any time together, if one or both of you is spending all your time at work, with friends, online—and if feels like a relief not to be with each other—it's a sign that you've already disengaged from the marriage."Some marriages encounter damaging, seemingly insurmountable problems—such as infidelity, the loss of a close family member, or a long sexual drought—and rebound from them.
"You can't go anywhere like that." A good rule of thumb: If it's been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.
I believe that it has always been in there but the sharp extremes have been kept in check.
The stress of getting divorced lowers people's resistance and ability to contain themselves.
In a previous article, I wrote about how women go through 5 stages when recovering from a divorce.
Perhaps we simply have more time in our 60s, with fewer family and work commitments, to reevaluate our lives and the people in them.One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is mutual respect, says Savage.When that's gone—when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected, and condescended to (and the other partner doesn't see it or refuses to talk through it), you're in a bad place.Upon hearing the news, some men react with stony silence, others leave the house to think, many ask why, and still others will get nasty and vindictive.The first three reactions are fairly common and easy to handle, but the angry spouse is a different story.