But he went out, and found a lot of ambitious, drunk, slothful and mean people out there.Zola simply could not - and was not interested in - telling a lie.
It describes a person who no longer drinks or abuses drugs, but continues to behave in dysfunctional ways.
Essentially, the only difference in these individuals is the absence of a substance.
The popular analogy in recovery is, “…if you sober up a horse thief, what do you get? A person with chemical dependency issues who is currently abstinent yet regressing in recovery.
In working with the spouses and significant others of addicts, I’ve often heard it said, “I’d rather be an addict than love one.” While few people would ever walk eyes-wide-open into a chronic disease like addiction, the statement speaks to the confusion, loneliness and despair common not only among addicts but also the men and women who love them. In fact, addicts who are solid in their recovery can make excellent partners.
A history of addiction doesn’t necessarily turn Mr./Mrs. They’ve waged a courageous battle, spending a great deal of time working to take care of and improve themselves.