Our series Love in Far Off Lands tracks her journey, highlighting the best of her encounters. “Yep,” the woman began, “If you’re a girl, you get to decide how much you’re worth.” Now there’s a sentence that inverts the American conception of women in Iran. My grandmother walks around with a whip and my grandfather is basically not allowed to talk. Iranian culture is almost but not quite matriarchal. One of the men elaborated, explaining that modern Iranian women are the embodiment of a “hard core backlash.
It was a Thursday night in Istanbul and I was sitting on a patio at a going away party with three Persian cousins: two men living in Istanbul for graduate school and a woman living there who works as a journalist. So it’s forbidden by law, informal dating when you’re not married. The men explained that when a woman gets married she decides on an amount of money that the man owes them if they get divorced. Also they’re graduating a lot more from university, to the extent that if a girl and boy are both applying to the same department at university, they’ve lowered the standards for the boys to try to even it out.
) it would be interesting for the students as well as my teacher with dissimilar background to know that how Iranians start dating, falling in love, and getting married. The way people start dating in Iran is highly dependent on the family they were born.
Generally, we have two extreme categories for Iranian families.
The fist category are ‘religions’ families who believed that their sons or daughters should not have any relationships before marriage.
Sometimes this category also is refereed to as ‘traditional’ family.
Being in an English learning for international students class, I think (hope! I am British and am interested in Persian culture / language and Iran itself.My problem is that time and again I meet men who think Oh, she’s easy because she is ‘English’ and they then revert back to marrying Persian girls. I hope that many members of our community write in and share their thoughts as well, and I hope that some of them serve to provide evidence contrary to your assumptions.Having this attitude in mind, a probable question coming to mind is that so how boys and girls in religions families meet each other for the first time while they should not have any relationships before marriage?To answer this question I should explain a custom which we called ‘Khastegari’.