We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.
Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.
It’s important not to make assumptions in dating, especially in the areas of sexual expectations and gender roles. The way you and your date communicate about and focus on the future will dictate compatibility. Many older daters feel more sexually liberated and confident than in days of their insecure, inexperienced youth. Try to avoid talking about exes on the first date — or at least mention them only in passing and without bitterness. If you’re nervous about meeting a stranger for dinner, opt for a daytime date. Sure, you should show up to dinner solo, but don’t start dating again without letting loved ones know.
Perhaps the greatest difference between dating in your twenties and dating in your fifties is the way you see and talk about the future. Others are paralyzed by body issues and are terrified of being with someone new. Bitterness is often the greatest criticism from older daters. If you’re overwhelmed by someone’s affections, explain that you need to move slowly. Not every person you date has to be “the one.” Besides, there’s no more ticking of that biological clock; instead of dating out of a sense of urgency to marry and have kids, you can slow down and ensure that you’re in a relationship for the right reasons. Tell your friends you’re ready to meet someone, and welcome them to set you up.
Be persistent and consistent by having a plan in place for meeting quality men. If they aren't a romantic interest, consider making them your friend.
And instead of quitting when a date goes bad, chalk it up as being one more man closer to the real man you are looking for.
But you need exposure to men, whether in person or online and its not happening if this is your nightly routine. I teach women all the time how to create a Finding Love after 50 Dating Blueprint that gives them their next step for finding love because I know how easy it is to get bogged down by all there is to know about dating at this time in their life.“So I’ve been taking lessons and I’m getting really good.I feel that it’s a new day and anything is possible.” Remember, it’s never too late to learn something new—in fact, it’s what keeps us feeling young. A big obstacle to finding love after 50 happens when you're NOT putting yourself in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS! What man doesn't love improving his golf swing and now they can do it year round at indoor and outdoor driving ranges. Men are there checking out books and movies every day. All you have to do is make sure you're in places where the two of you can meet. Have a vision that is too narrow when it comes to the kind of men you are willing to date.Men can't find you when you're hiding every night at home. Ask most women what they want in a man and a type similar to Richard Gere's character in "Pretty Woman" comes to mind. Having been spoon fed on fairy tales as a little girl can jade you to who a great guy might be- often giving you unrealistic expectations of who "Quality Men" really are. Stay open to dating all kinds of men with all kinds of looks, backgrounds, and interests as long as they are economically self sufficient, meaning they can hold their own and won't be financially dependent on you. Give up on dating after one or even five bad dates!