I was saying goodbye to my mom and dad as I watched them raise their eyebrows at the mob of diverse freshman unloading their college supplies. Knowing the dynamics of the word “home” were about to change, I let a nervous giggle escape without unleashing my usual well-meaning but uniformed 18-year-old ideas about racial injustice.
“Don’t come home with a black boyfriend,” my dad said in a raspy whisper as he pointed one finger unintentionally at my heart and gestured towards my co-ed dorm. A perpetual comedian, my dad’s parting words were not unlike his jokester self.
Whatever the reason, it kept my wonderful mother from having a real and full discussion with me about boys, possibly under the assumption that I knew all the essentials, i.e. We had a library in the house; most of it shelved my mother’s academic books from her days as an English major, while a huge cabinet, concealed from the rest of the other acceptable literature, hid romance novels.
boys are a bad idea, boys distract good girls from school work and being successful, and boys should only appear when a girl is in her twenties and ready for marriage. I stole them daily after school, hid in my room, and read them.
aced with rising rents, school loans to pay off, high unemployment rates and a tight job market, more and more adults are moving back home with their parents—about 18 million between the ages of 18 and 34, according to the U. Cuddling on the couch with a new girlfriend or boyfriend? And is sex even a possibility with the ’rents around?
While living rent-free has its advantages, navigating the dating scene can certainly get tricky when your folks are in the room next to yours.
If they're not ready to lose you, promise to them that you will still be around to hang with them. Source: Shutter Stock Don't only focus on the thing your parents are worried about. Or say that you promise to spend 1 hour every night studying.
Maybe it's because they want you to focus on school. So, if they don't want you to date because they think school is more important, show them that you'll still make school a priority. You can cry to them that you're old enough and mature enough all you want, but they won't believe it until they actually see it. If it's school, make a deal that if you don't get a certain GPA, they don't have to let you date.
My mom is up at the crack of dawn, so it’s a little awkward when I come home at 6 a.m.
and she’s like, ‘When I saw you last night, you were here.’ If she’d just let him stay over, this wouldn’t happen.” The solution: Whitney needs to level with her mother, our experts say.
It was time for my inner-city girl, wannabe journalist self to roam free. When she asked where he grew up, I said France, quickly choosing to edit out the part about Africa. I told her my relationship with Quinn was off and on. He graduated and found a sought-after desk job crunching numbers and salivating over spreadsheets.
After my fair share of empty make-out sessions on the weekends, I started fully embracing singlehood without much concern over finding a boyfriend. He cooked African cuisine and introduced me to plantains for dessert. Throughout my relationship with Qinisela, I lied by omission (the worst kind of lying, in my opinion) every time his name came up in conversation with my parents. I was running my student magazine, planning photo shoots and designing advertisements.