Do you still want to get back together with your ex? You see how all of these things can radically impact your decision as to when to get back out there? I couldn’t convince her to take me back, so I did what I do best – I went back online – literally MINUTES after I returned home from the teary breakup.And I don’t know the first thing about you or your individual circumstances. Now, in some respects, this made sense, in that I wasn’t going wallow in misery and think about what I did wrong or how I could fix things.Generally speaking, states award rehabilitative alimony, and long term or permanent alimony is fairly rare.This means that a court is interested in providing alimony to a spouse who needs to get back on his or her feet after the divorce.Will you be able to accomplish ministry (be it your original plan or one that you have caught a vision for through this person) more effectively together than apart? Look at the roles laid out there for men and women.Do you desire to fill your role with the person in question specifically in mind?Was the divorce amicable and are both parties on good terms?Are you actively involved in each others’ lives as “friends”? How long was the relationship failing before you broke up?
Here's a quick review: First, look at the purpose that God has for your life (generally to "bring glory to God and enjoy Him forever"; more specifically how you see that playing out in your ministry and circumstances).
Our attitude to dating is not so much a matter of church policy but a matter of family government.
Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Most parents continue to allow dating because it is the way that they did things in their day, and they believe that they survived.