When you're on a date with one person but thinking about another person. This guy has superior abs and is a better listener most of the time. Even if I double up on something, I can just pretend my phone sent the text twice. What if their roommate/friend you met sees you on a date with someone else? When you tell a story a bunch of times because you can't remember which one you already told it to. OK, I think I'm just gonna copy/paste text all three of them as much as possible. Especially when I'm seeing other people besides you in a romantic context, which I am absolutely doing right now. When you tell someone you just want to keep it casual for now and they think that just means you don't want to get married and have kids within the year. Rest in peace, that one time I dated like a baller. Last month, I wrote to two men that I was very interested in.The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.I was fresh out of a relationship, breakup wounds still searing.But, rather than stay single, I figured out what the hell I wanted from my next long-term partner, dove straight into dating, and found myself in the middle of a rotation — that is, seeing a multitude of men, all noncommittally.I’ve also noticed that she’s happiest when she’s dating a couple of people at once.This has changed now that she has started seeing someone she really likes, but until recently, I encouraged her to keep seeing this other, duddier guy throughout, just so she wouldn’t concentrate all of her anxieties on one dude.
Eh, that joke was funny but not as funny as the ones that the guy I date on Saturdays tells. Great, now I've met another person who knows I'm dating this person and I have to spend my dates with other people looking for that person like they're a spy who could cause my undoing. Ugh, but it'd be so much easier to schedule one after the other so I don't have to go home in between. Wait, I wonder if he has information I should know about. One of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most. Preferably at the same bar so I could just sit there all night motionless like a beached seal. You can't go to your favorite bar on all your dates because the others might see you there. He really is the keeper to my freaky universe and I should probably tip him more. You know you're going to have to have The Talk with them and tell them you're not interested in becoming exclusive, but also they're really good at going down on you and losing that will suuuuuck. You're having feelings for one of them but you're not ready to give up on your cool new sex cult. This is the unwritten rule of dating in the modern age.In light of all this, I asked psychologist Irene Levine, clinical professor of psychiatry at New York University Langone School of Medicine, to demystify the allure of dating multiple people simultaneously, once and for all.