Whether you’ve been Houdini, and pulled a disappearing act, gone radio silent, or played the slow fade where you wait longer and longer to respond to someone until you’re blatantly ignoring him or her, the bottom line is, Sometimes there can be an innocent misunderstanding when one person feels a connection and the other has no interest in pursuing it any further.
In this situation, sometimes we assume our date felt the same disconnect.
If the chemistry was lacking and there was no follow-up on either part, then it’s ok to go your separate ways in silence.It’s entirely too easy to get distracted by side issues; the would-be martial artist wants to skip straight past the basics to where he learns how to break boards and beat people up, the cooking newbie obsesses about the perfect knife or whether he needs a food processor or a sous-vide appliance while he still hasn’t mastered basic prep.In dating, we are often distracted – focusing on the perfect approach and opening line or how to get a one-night stand, for example – when our time is better spent learning the central concepts. We met for a movie and he decided he was going to turn it into a date. There was no room on the date for my heart because your ego was taking up too much space.He specifically told me it was a date, and he sealed it with a kiss. Was he dating her when he said he wanted to see me again, and hoped there would be groping? He reads my blogs, and from what I can gather, he felt sorry for me, having been hurt by love and a series of bad dates, so he asked me out more out of pity than any real interest. Worse than being some kind of charity date, he told me that I would hate him now, but when my broken heart felt better, I would know he did a good thing. I will never understand how men get by when they are so stupid.