What’s interesting about my client, Alexis, is that she had it wrong when it comes to her attitude about short men.All this time, she’d told herself that she didn’t like short men because she simply wasn’t sexually attracted to them; in fact, the real reason she wasn’t attracted to short men was because she had a fixed image in her mind of what a man should look and act like as a result of her upbringing, and she needed the men she seeks out romantically to fit the same exact image of the men in her family. I spend more hours than you’d believe trying to help men and women change the type of person to whom they’re sexually attracted. The first step is to dig deep and ask yourself what in your history makes you attracted to a certain type, as well as what in your history repels you from a certain type.A study from dating site looked at 50,000 interactions over two months and discovered that the likelihood that a man under 5-foot-9 is contacted by a Manhattan or Bronx woman online is just 1.2 percent. But after we surveyed mental health experts about what qualities matter or don't matter to their clients looking for lifelong partners, we discovered that shorter men are actually husband material.
They can be more insecure."In high school, I dated a guy who was 5'6" and I noticed that he was really into manly things like working out and muscle cars, more so than his tall friends.Men and women both fall prey to the (remarkably persistent) myth that sexual attraction works on auto-pilot, as if we are all preprogrammed to be attracted to the ones who captivate our attention. The type of person you’re attracted to depends largely on your beliefs. My client, Alexis, comes from the most machismo family I can imagine, full of firefighters, Marines, and gobs of Old Spice. In Alexis’ family, she was the only daughter and the men in her family were brawny and tough.She is one of my clients who has never dated a short man, and she has no intention to ever date one.We want guys tall, dark and handsome; big men that’ll make us feel dainty and protected; real men who knock their heads on door frames and ask for fourth helpings of dinner. A recent study found that nearly half the women surveyed would only date men taller than themselves.As if that’s not enough, they are also underrepresented in the business world. While in caveman times I might have needed a hulking monolith of a man to keep me from freezing to death, we live in the era of John Lewis, and I have a really great duvet.