it's not likely you contracted hsv2 from her from 2 encounters.Honestly you are much safer with someone who knows that they are hsv2 than you are with someone who doesn't get tested to know that they are infected.I'm now torn between my desire to continue dating her, and protecting my own health. For e.g., very few people want to date (or are compatible with) a intellectual atheist brown foreigner.I understand that the chances of having picked up the infection from her over these 2 enounters is very small, and I also get it that if I choose to date her and have regular sex with her (which is a given if I do date her), then I'll have about 5-15% risk of getting it. You don't have to like my line of thinking, but its pragmatic :), and adding HSV2 positive status to my list of limiting constraints would make future dating pool only smaller for me.
It can also be asymptomatic, so most people with herpes don’t know they have it, which is a large part of the reason why it’s so prevalent.
But, now that I have this virus, and I am fully aware of the impact it has had on my body (I've had painful symptoms non-stop for months!
), my question is, how can I possibly put anyone that I love and care about in this position?
But all the self-acceptance in the world doesn’t erase the fact that a herpes diagnosis creates ripple effects of shame and social isolation, and the fallout is especially pronounced when it comes to your dating life.“It’s good to have the conversation because there is a potential risk of transmission,” Cherrell Triplett, M.
D., an ob/gyn who practices at Southside OBGYN and Franciscan Alliance in Indianapolis, Indiana, tells SELF.