This rang true enough for me to decide to get in touch with a certified sex and relationship coach Myisha Battle to talk more about types and why it’s so hard to break our own molds. His individuality was not out-of-line, but, rather, intoxicating.
She told me that a lot of our issues with type-casting our partners is that we get warm feelings for things that are familiar—despite the fact that familiar is not always synonymous with good.“A lot of our attraction to our partners is due to our unconscious roles we developed in childhood. Giving him a second chance was more than a second date, it was ending a non-functioning cycle of insanity in my life.
Yes, it's true that we all have preferences in life.
However, when you pigeonhole yourself into a certain "type" of man, it's a big mistake in dating. It's also limiting and keeps your pool of available men narrow.
Having a type helps one to eliminate potential partners you assume you will not be compatible with.
To this could be added certain deal-breakers like smoking or past felony.
Throughout my misadventures as a serial dater and love seeker, I’ve developed a taste for a certain type.
And while it might not have been intentional, if I were to put my last four lovers in a police lineup, it’d be hard for strangers to tell them apart.
It is human nature to categorize – this innate tendency to sort things and people into separate groups is not only essential to making sense of the world but to arrive at complex decisions.
Probably because of this most of us have a certain type when it comes to love and dating.