First dates are usually a crapshoot, no matter which way you slice ’em. But I’ve learned to try my best to avoid some of the more abrasive topics that may come off a bit too forward when talking with a brand new man.
Regardless of how much I’ve talked to guys through texts, there’s no amount of preparation possible for when you’re finally face-to-face. Here are six important things that should never, ever leave a gay guy’s mouth on a first date.
Sure, I may be pretty curious if you’re a pitcher or a catcher, but I’m not going to blurt out that question in the middle of a nice meal.
First off, it’s better to keep the conversation basic during an initial encounter instead of yapping on about sex and all the crazy things you’ve done.
I value spontaneity, but I don’t actually need to know if you’re a top or a bottom until I’m in bed, staring directly at your butthole. Even if your date conversation seems to be lacking, try to avoid any conversations related to you, your ex and all of their terrible qualities.
We don’t know each other well enough yet, so odds are, while you’re listing off traits you hated about your ex, you’re going to utter something that I do regularly (like whistling while I pee), and I’m going to be immediately turned off.
Dates, especially first dates should be , of course! First dates are a blank canvas upon which you get to shine. Focus not so much on weeding out during this first interaction, but instead on having fun and how that can be accomplished.
Put the focus on each other and allow the individual colors that shade who we are to shine.
Your date could end up feeling inadequate, insecure and bored.
“Our kids would be gorgeous” or “what type of marriage ceremony appeals most to you?
” are not necessarily the greatest fodder for first dates.
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