To a certain extent I feel I understand the reasons for some of these problems. “Vietnamese women get serious too quickly,” said one western colleague of mine once. “But with Vietnamese women, you go out once or twice and suddenly they treat you like you’re boyfriend and girlfriend.It really pisses me off.” For Vietnamese women, when we go out with someone even for the first time, we have already decided that we like the person. They won’t go out with a girl unless they’ve already decided that there’s some sort of attraction. If you like each other, then why not become boyfriend and girlfriend?I want culture of the other; I want ritual and strangeness and a more interesting story.
Can love work between couples from different language backgrounds and different cultures?
For, in reality, I know that my boss and my sister have had to accept more than just their partners’ cultural traits.
They’ve had to ingratiate themselves with a whole different belief system and set of nuances that are alien to their own. However, achieving such a scenario is complicated and requires patience, an open mind and a lot of time.
Editor’s Note: These are the sole observations of Az NHeart Throb only. All examples are NOT based on any real people (that draft has been deleted and replaced with these lovely hypotheticals). In all cases, the male will have a much lower education level, in all likelihood an AA degree*.
As it were, 3 years later, I’m not this bitter anymore. Said male will typically be a heavy smoker, an even more heavy drinker, most likely a gambler and ideally, holds a job that is far less advanced than his female counterpart.