For them, it’s just not an option to grab the nearest man in a desperate bid for kids (“I call them sperm-donor weddings,” says one single mom) or to get pregnant “accidentally” by a man they don’t love. But they’re still hoping to meet the man of their dreams, so they keep their profile up and their fingers crossed. “I usually find a way to tell the man what I’m doing within the first date or two,” she says.Could you be among their ranks right now—or perhaps in another few years? “I don’t want to leave them in the dark, and I want to see ‘what they’re made of’ before a real attachment is formed.When asked about how being pregnant changes the way they feel about dating, the women reported feeling self-conscious (56%), embarrassed about their pregnancy (18%) and less attractive (40%).While one in five (19%) feel exactly the same as when they are not pregnant, only 3% feel more attractive, and only 17% are proud of their pregnancies.Welcome to the newest dating frontier—dating while inseminating.The women out there doing it have made a careful, considered decision to try for motherhood before their biological clock rings. “You can’t hold back something big and expect them to trust you later on.” Martie, 42, who’s been trying to conceive for the past six months, agrees.More than a third (37%) said they wouldn't even consider sex with a new partner during pregnancy.
Your self-confidence offers your date a cue as to how to react.
Then he says, “Just to get this out of the way, do you want to have kids?
” Um, actually, yes, you do—so much so, in fact, that you’re going in to your gynecologist’s office tomorrow morning to be inseminated with anonymous-donor sperm.
In the meantime, since I still have free time on my hands and am very much interested in being married, I am dating.
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