I had been dating this guy for a steady period of time when he decided to call it quits.I was devastated and hurt until I caught myself throwing an endless pity party and didn’t like it.Before you can be the best version of your ‘dating self’, you need to become the best version of your SELF.You already have all the ingredients you need to live an abundant, fulfilled, exciting and happy life – you just need to know how to access the recipe.On top of that, they found the similarity was established at the beginning of a relationship, as the study included people who’d known each other for years as well as those who’d only known each other for a short amount of time.“We found that people in relationships are similar to one another in all kinds of ways: attitudes and values, personality traits, behaviours like exercise,” says co-lead author Angela Bahns, an assistant professor of psychology at Wellesley College in Massachusetts.The big take-away, Bahns says, is that you shouldn’t expect to change your partner.
I didn’t know who to run to or how to distract myself from reality. Believe me, I’m no expert at the fine art of fierce self-love. I’m generally much better at self-deprecation and self-sabotage. And I bought myself some sour candies and a big old popcorn. And, like the “duh” billy club beat me over the head, I deeply understood that the most important relationship that I will ever have, the truly defining relationship that I can count on forever, is the one with myself. Then, somewhere a shrill voice inside me said, “WAKE UP LADY! ” And I also realized, that like any relationship, my relationship with myself would take cultivating and attention.