The stress your boss causes is bad for your health.
Multiple studies have found that working for a bad boss increases your chance of having a heart attack by as much as 50%.
When those negative voices start taking over, give them the boot with positive affirmations. Find one or two things that you can have a legitimate opinion on, and speak up about it.5. Focus on just one task or accomplishment that you can successfully complete in a competent manner.
Remind yourself of all the great things you have accomplished. Believe it or not, your confidence level emanates from your voice, and people around will respond to it. This will give you something to point to that will allow you to mentally tell yourself that you really are not stupid, that you are learning and growing.
Every day people land on my Blog by typing this desperate phrase into their Google search bar:“My Boss Makes Me Feel Like an Idiot.”This good Google fortune is driven from a couple of posts I wrote dealing with the subject of “feeling stupid at work.” These have led to numerous comments, private emails, and even some behind-the-scenes counseling from good people in bad situations looking for some advice.
Apparently, I have captured a micro-audience of tortured souls dealing with the unpleasant challenge of facing a brutish boss every day. Their story is almost always the same: a once-confident worker is suddenly thrust into a new situation with an intimidating boss, and instead of rising to the challenge, a downward spiral ensues of little mistakes, negative self-talk, more fumbling, obsessive rumination and complete loss of confidence.
A person who is content and has peace of mind is very unlikely to project anger and bitterness on a regular basis.
We’ve all been in the company of someone who makes us feel on edge, uneasy or unsure of ourselves.
I know it might be hard to believe, but almost everyone I know has had this kind of experience at some point in their career.
(The masculine pronoun here is appropriate because, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute, most bully bosses are men.) Or maybe some employees ask for it, just a little, through their abject performance and dubious hygiene. Surely that would soften even the flintiest boss’s stony heart? Hurst said even more “heroic” efforts by employees to act like good corporate citizens usually fail to appease bullying bosses.
But for anyone forced to deal with an abusive supervisor, the obvious question is: How do you stop it? Hurst and her fellow researchers spent six months talking to 244 employees in a range of organizations to observe how people’s interactions with an abusive supervisor affected the relationship. That may say something not only about the general character of bullies, but also about the changing nature of work in the U.
There are numerous psychological tricks for dealing with intimidating people and I’m going to outline the most important ones below.
Some people tend to have natural abilities when it comes to dealing with others, they tend to be able to read other people quite well and can read between the lines.