But once the water has gone you are faced with the former town that was initially flooded and the now wrecked buildings which need to be pulled down. After kicking booze, I moved directly onto the next most pressing issue for me: depression, initially with the help of CBT therapy and medication and more recently with exercise, meditation and diet.And then I tackled other issues caused by mental illness, including anxiety, rage, and hypochondria.Then you start to wonder about your date’s drinking, you always seem to meet in bars and a lot of alcohol is consumed.While it may be fun now, it is getting worrying...will it slow down. It is no fun to be involved in a relationship with an alcoholic.
It can be very hard, especially at the beginning of a relationship,to leave someone you really care for, even love because he/she has a drinking problem.And second, it’s much easier to date someone who speaks the same language.” Bryan thinks about it for a second before adding, “Some will say it’s two mentally ill people going out with each other, but I think many of us that are sober can work through our disease in order to have a healthy relationship.” According to Melody Anderson, a family and addiction expert in Los Angeles, if both parties are working a solid program of recovery, they can have even better chances than non-alcoholics of a successful partnership.“All relationships are difficult—that’s just a fact,” she says. Depression, homelessness, the break up of the family unit, losing one’s job, losing one’s career, losing one’s house, losing one’s mind, losing one’s life even.But perhaps the most insidious aspect of this disease is the dawning realisation that even if you manage to quit the booze in time, you’ve still got half the battle to go. You’ll need to call the police and the coroner’s office. There are rotten and half eaten animal carcasses that need to be cleared up and disposed of. You have never seen so many mangled shopping trolleys, broken children’s bikes and unwanted cars. There are burst canisters of toxic waste that have long since leached into the ground.