If you show feeling before they do, or more feeling than they do; if you lose your cool; if you make a playful joke that offends their touchy nature; if you respond to their texts in much less time than they respond to yours—if you do any of these things (not to mention countless other slips in game, most of them quite stupid and unnatural to have to guard against), then, chances are, the woman will just turn to the next guy in her phone—one of many! For she has endless sexual options, as you do not, and as many non-American women do not want.