and let me save you a whole lot of bother by telling you this straight up: there is no perfect person out there for you because there’s no perfect person out there for anyone. Even if you end up falling head over heels for someone and they do seem perfect at the time, when the love hormones wear off, there will be one or two areas where he won’t be flawless. And this is the other great failing of online dating: it discounts one very important, extremely powerful variable - chemistry.Chemistry is what’s responsible when you meet some guy who is totally not your physical type and the complete opposite in personality to guys you normally get on with - but you don’t care.This approach can morph people into the commodities of others' consumption. Individuals can be intensely "in love" one minute, and not at all later, simply based on appearance. This approach goes against almost everything our body, mind and the Net convinces us is real.Often, people are in love with "being in love" not with you at all. It's good advice to ask for many photographs, so if physical attractiveness is important to you, a balanced look at someone over time and in many contexts is achieved. Don't project an illusion of a person from one image. The most pain, hurt, brokenness and distress caused online by people attempting to find the divine within each other, is a misunderstanding about the voracity of emotional online connection, and an abandonment of what true love really is.
The Internet has strong advantages but there are some serious pitfalls .
But the biggest advantage of online dating is also the biggest disadvantage.
On the upside, it means the people you meet are likely to be more compatible with you than some random guy you meet in a bar who you know nothing about.
A "surfer" can immediately focus on people with similar interests, beliefs, age and other important criteria without having to spend time and money "going for coffee." Non-matching people can be sidestepped without ever needing to make contact.
It's "partner shopping" in a global supermarket of humanity.