Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended.
But what you're doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. I'm the one person who wears the words 'hustle, loyalty, respect' on my T-shirts and merchandise. It's very flattering to see a kid wear your T-shirt; it's even more flattering to have a dad come up to you and say, 'I watch you with my kid. You're a role model for my son.'Infuse your life with action.
When you and your friend are both in the "off-limits" camp, it's great -- it simply doesn't happen, because you both agree it's not a good move.
However, when you're in different camps, and a friend dates your ex (or vice versa), this can lead to big trouble -- anything from awkward social interactions to permanent rifts within groups of friends.
So read these quotes for a few reasons you shouldn’t get back with that loser who broke your heart, stop looking at his pictures and start realizing how terrific you are!
Dealing with your feelings Being supportive Working around awkward situations Community Q&A Breaking up can be hard and is even harder in that odd situation where your friend starts dating him or her after you broke up.
Coping requires knowing your feelings, talking to your friend and deciding upon some strategies to keep your friendship intact.
Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.
Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom.
I mean, we've heard the charming phrases like "bros before hos" and "chicks over dicks" so frequently that the notion is ingrained into our minds: Don't date your ex's buddy and don't date your friend's ex. Without rhyme, reason, logic and common sense, we often find ourselves inexplicably attracted to someone. True friendship and true love are both elusive the key is trying to get them both!
The lover in question might not be worth causing a rift in your friendship.