That was until I radically altered my personal approach to dating. He knows he's going to have to prove himself, and that becomes his goal. It's a formula that has worked for thousands of years, and it starts with one crucial thing: the guy makes the first moves.2. When he takes the lead, she sees him as a confident guy, and therefore someone she can count on and respect.These are three things I learned from my own relationship, and the reasons men need to take the lead (and women need to let them).1. He pursues, and later ups the ante to exclusivity, engagement, and marriage. When a woman either fails to develop respect for her man or loses it, the relationship is pretty much over.Ben is sensitive and tries hard to please Miriam, but when there's a problem that needs to be dealt with, he seems oblivious. Then Adam hides in the bushes and God asks him: Adam did you eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge that I commanded you not to eat? God doesn't say, "Adam, I understand -- she pushed you into it.When she asks for input on a decision, he says, "It's up to you." He wants to be nice but he doesn't realize he's frustrating her. Like a lot of men these days, I received so many messages on what a man in a relationship should be, I was bewildered. If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. What happens next in the world's first relationship? They have one commandment: Don't eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. You're not responsible for what happened." Just the opposite.I came from a long line of strong and independent women.My grandmother went to college in the 40s, something not a lot of women did back then.Even the most empowered woman needs to know when to take a step back.
I’ve been dating a beta-male for about a month and a half.Today I present two women who want their male partners to take charge.One is a bit more extreme than the other: hint, it’s the one who is a slave.Don’t worry, we’ll start with the more traditional one to ease you into things.Thanks so much to both of my super awesome guest posters who are giving us a window into the inner workings of relationships where the man is in control.