The Pandora's Aquarium chat room welcomed Wendy Maltz, MSW, as a guest speaker on January 31, 2008.
An internationally recognized writer and sex therapist, Maltz is the author of The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
Talking about sex openly makes for relationships that are more fun and satisfying.
You can’t expect a partner to know what you like unless you tell them. Tip: If you have been diagnosed with an STI, you will need to share this information with potential partners.
“Imagine going to a restaurant where the chef served you whatever he or she felt like fixing instead of giving you a choice.
I thought that was a little surprising, since as a woman I thought that men lived for this kind of thing, but I didn't want to force him to do something he didn't want to do.
He has also always balked at oral sex, he did try it a couple of times before with me but then said he didn't like it at all because it "tasted funny". Sure, I could masterbate, but when I do it feels extremely dissapointing (at times I can't even orgasm from it) for the simple fact it's not what I want and need to feel fullfilled. Like you, I think that men normally love the slippery feeling.
So, we tried having sex immediately after a bath or shower, and he still seemed queasy of the idea. What I want is my husband to feel comfortable touching me, because I feel very dirty, ugly and "bad" when he doesn't--like there's something wrong with me. It is a sign that they can still turn their partners on.
Hey all, There's another one I'd like to ask about that really has me baffled.
Simply put, during sex or otherwise, my husband will not touch or come near (well, any more than he has to to start intercourse )my vagina, clitoris, the whole area.