If your expat game plan includes finding love then you’ll need to wrap your brain around romancing the American way. S.-style dating looks a lot like it does elsewhere: find someone you don’t hate on sight and who you strongly suspect isn’t a serial killer, then arrange to meet for some kind of shared food or beverage experience. It’s like a job or house hunt, which means investigating more than one prospect at a time.
Here, people tend to take a business-like approach to finding a mate.
But the key is that everything is talkable, and open communication is the key to navigating the relationship scene in a country that we are not originally from.
A few days ago, as an American friend of mine was telling me all about her new boyfriend and how he had asked her out with flowers, I realized how different courtship and dating is for teens in France and the US. Americans go on formal dates; we keep things secret. The word “date” has no equivalent in French, and it’s simply because we don’t go on them.
It is hard to believe that my first big day romance-wise happened in a country that I am not from and with a guy who is not Chinese.
But I think it just made the whole thing fun, cool and memorable.
If you are on a personal connection, like at home, you can run an anti-virus scan on your device to make sure it is not infected with malware.Overall, Americans are very very cautious on the dating scene.It can sometimes take a long time for a romantic relationship to develop into an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There are all kinds of different stages of relationships that foreigners need to be aware of, and some of them will always seem kind of ridiculous (like the open-relationship stuff, I am just never able to get it).If it’s not been mentioned yet, best assume your date is currently pretending to laugh at a couple of other people’s jokes too.This candid communication style might not sit well with awkward, bumbling Brits — especially men — who tend to recoil from conversations about their feelings.