Specifically, it seems that some of you are wondering if it’s okay to date non-Christians. God’s Word urges us not to link our lives with non-believers, and the consequences of choosing to do otherwise can be disastrous.

But I know that you might not be willing to simply take my word on this one.

Throughout our relationship he’s really encouraged me in my faith … But I do not know how to handle the simplistic thinking from many members of the church who think that my relationship is wrong—that I should either end it, or be living in sin. I’ve been dating this man for two years now and he prepared me that he’ll be making a proposal soon.

In fact, I get why so many young women have been deceived into thinking that it is a potentially wonderful missions opportunity.

Or should she obey and break her own heart in the process? She broke up with Joseph and left for college in tears. But she knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that she’d done the right thing.

This is a fairly common scenario—A Christian dates a non-Christian. The Christian must make a choice: go through the pain of a breakup, or be “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever.

I understand that God can use all things to work together for the good of those who are in Christ, but I cannot help but wonder if God would encourage a relationship that is unequally yoked. I’m not ignorant enough to think that God hasn’t used an unequally yoked couple for His good, but I will still fall on the side of discouraging relationships where both parties aren’t on the same spiritual page. (Proverbs 16)Your relationship with God should always be put above your relationship with anyone else, and that includes your future spouse.

My wife and I both encourage one another to make God our first priority, and in doing so, our relationship with each other will flourish.