It is easy to want to compare yourself to your ‘replacement’ and wonder what he sees in her, but the reality is that you’ll probably never know and you’re burning up energy better used elsewhere.
Some people start dating to force themselves to move on, some to bury the pain and yes, some are just ready to jump back in the saddle.
A little bit of bruised ego is natural but if you become consumed by his new relationship or exploits, it may be time to ask whether you’re really over him, and if you are; what is it about your own life that makes this news so unbearable.
Often you’ll find that the reason it bothers you is because you have taken his actions as some sort of reflection on you and the past you shared together.
Your ex broke up with you and left you heartbroken.
Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger.
Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded.
Here’s how to deal with the weirdness and get back to the mainland, because you have far more important things to do than worry about who your ex is smooching.
If they’ve been in the relationship for a few months or less, then it’s probably a rebound and it will end soon.
On the other hand, if their relationship has been going on for over a year, then you can safely assume that the relationship is serious for them and it’s probably not a rebound.