can’t work. After all, everyone knows that couple who met on an app or dating site and is now happily hitched.
right way — without it being a total waste of my time and energy (or a source of stress).
I got endless matches, all right, but I also didn’t know which matches were worth my time. Are we now too afraid to approach interesting people in real life because we know we can just go back to the comparative “ease” of approaching people online?
But I had a sneaking suspicion that this 21st-century way of dating might actually be stunting our personal growth.
actual dating scene looks a little more like this: You swipe right, and so does he. Like tons of other singles, I’ve signed up for the apps and websites that promise easy, endless matches: Match, e Harmony, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, OKCupid — you name it, I’ve tried it. But I had a sneaking suspicion that this 21st-century way of dating might actually be stunting our personal growth.
Dating, as we once knew it, feels pretty much over. “Laid-back guy, who likes sports and craft beer, just looking for a girl to have fun with” — you and every other man, apparently. Are we now too afraid to approach interesting people in real life because we know we can just go back to the comparative “ease” of approaching people online?
So, lets look at a few typical examples of bad profiles: “I am not good at writing about myself, but my friends say that I am intelligent, professional, educated and ambitious. I am looking to a meet an intelligent, beautiful woman for dating and relationship.” – at first, this looks like a well-written profile by a guy who seems to have head on his shoulders. There is nothing “catchy” about this profile – there is nothing that would compel a reader to stop and respond to it.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. Lets look at another bad profile: “I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.” – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.” “I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies.
If you wanna hang out sometimes, holler at me…” – unless you are in a fraternity, you should never come across as someone who has nothing else to him but getting drunk and leading a lifestyle devoid of any real goals or ambition.