In my teens and early twenties, I’ve experienced a lot of bullshit, disappointments, almost-but-not-quite’s, and occasionally some really great partners.
Through all of the trials and tribulations, and in circumnavigating my identity, there are five primary questions I consider before committing to a potential partner.
It gives me a sense of relief and safety because it can be assumed that I’m not a fat girl experiment for you.
It’s important to know if a potential partner has ever dated someone fat because it sets the tone for history of attraction and having the experience of dating someone fat.
Societal standards of beauty are not only arbitrary but often literally impossible to achieve without Photoshop and make-up and there are assholes out there who feel empowered to mock fat people with impunity.
But being large and in charge doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life of being forever alone; in fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex and happiness than you’d ever believe possible. There are plenty of notable examples out there if you look around. Seth Rogan is no Abercrombie and Fitch model but he’s also happily married.
It's never easy to be rejected for any reason, but fat women get used to it in their interactions with men sadly because it seems to be more socially acceptable to express disgust with fat than it is express other complaints about a person's physical appearance.
But while that's true, all of the fat women in my life have at least one story of men explaining to them that they could never date because of her fatness.